If I were to draw a picture of my life right now, it would look like this:
The combination of tag-team parenting, a husband who works away on occasions and me - a shift-worker, working evenings and 2-3 weekends every month, leaves me feeling quite scrambled. I don't always know what day it is, or where I'm going to next, but somehow I manage to get there. Admittedly (and obviously), the frantic juggling of everything is not my ideal. Nor is it something I ever imagined I'd be doing at this point in my life. But it is what it is, and somehow, it works.
I don't enjoy working weekends, being away from family and missing out socially with friends. And I certainly don't enjoy not seeing my husband much.
But it's what we do. It's certainly not the perfect life, and whether I like it or not, this is the path I have chosen (or has chosen me in a sense, which is a tale for another day), and I just have to figure out the best way to deal with it.
In saying that, there have been occasions where I have found myself envying others and the supposed ease of their life. I have been plagued with guilt for working weekends. FOMO has been a frequent companion, and I have lost count of the many occasions that I have missed out on catching up with friends and family. Time to nurture new friendships is scarce, and I have wallowed in self-pity because everyone else was out having fun while I had to work.
Before you think I am all 'woe is me', I'm not. If anything, my crazy 'normal' has taught me to truly appreciate what I have. It has taught me to truly savour the sweet spots.
Sweet spots are those moments of time that fill my cup. The sweet moments of joy, of doing life together, of watching my kids growing up and being awesome.
It's about simplifying so I can focus on moments that would otherwise go unnoticed. It's about appreciating rather than taking for granted the mornings, afternoons and evenings we can be together. Weekends have become sacred as I choose to reclaim time for us and put aside other things that vie for my attention.
Savouring the sweet spots means learning to put aside the 'to-do's', no matter how hard that may be, and giving my attention to the people I choose to be with. It's about prioritising people over tasks and making the most of the small opportunities we can grab, as infrequent as they might be.
In the midst of our busyness, it's easy to lose focus. It's so easy for me to be caught up with what I don't have, that I miss out on what I do. Savouring the sweet spots allows me to keep my eyes on my own path, and not get swept along wishing I was walking someone else's.
How do you savour the sweet spots in the midst of a busy life?